We all are materialistic in life. No matter how many times we deny it but that’s what we are. We crave for new and better things in life be it gadgets, entertainment, clothes we want everything brand new. But there is also a truth that as we move progress in life, we start admiring and valuing old things more. The groovy sound of gramophone, discolored pages of old books, frayed old fashioned clothes, cacophony of an old guitar, screechiness of a tape recorder brings smile on our face. And suddenly these things become ‘vintage’ and are valued more today than in their original times.
I remember discarding all my old audio-cassettes while shifting places thinking what good it holds now as I use compact discs like everyone else, but now I desire to owe a collection of it just like an uncle of mine who owns a collection of vinyl records. Same goes with the old clothes, of course no point in keeping when you have outgrown them but it’s so difficult to get that old fashioned hipsters, granny knitted wool sweaters or gypsy dungarees. Not that I’m going to wear them in public but it’s just this penchant of collecting them as a treasure. When I watch black and white movies, I can’t stop myself from eulogizing everything about it, the background music of those times, the simplicity of the expressions etc. (at least this I can boast of, owing a collection of some best black and white movies). Nobody uses those archaic pocket watches these days but I’m sure there are certain people who keep it as their prized possessions.
I know few people who are always on a hunt of collecting things from earlier times. They say, it connects them with the age gone by and keeps them grounded as the new inventions don’t charm them enough. It’s a rapid market today full of new inventions and it is often too difficult to track. I’ve seen people switching their mobile phones so frequently, that they can’t even recall how many times they have done that. May be the next revolution will replace mobile phones with something unique (same way the mobile phones did with the hand-dialing telephones) and will make them vintage over the generations.
That’s the rule of life. New things taking over old things. But don’t stop appreciating old things, as they were new at sometime.
“Wisdom is better than wit, and in the long run will certainly have the laugh on her side” – Jane Austen
When I read such piquant quotes, I contemplate about the serious dearth of original and supreme level of wits in the present day authors. Today, it is so hard to find such clever yet funny quotes. I don’t intend to belittle the works by new world writers but Inever found an opportunity to compare anything with Oscar Wilde or Mark Twain.
Think, it was something in the air during 16th -18th century when every third person born became an author. I suppose wittiness was infectious in those centuries as people around themselves maintained an optimal level of it to encourage it to reach its highest level contrary to today’s world when a Family Guy joke is sometimes complimented as how witty!!
There is a fine demarcation between being witty and funny. Being funny even logically does not necessarily means you are carrying wits, and it is true vice-versa as sometimes wits may make people laugh and other times it puts them in awe. I believe it is either inherent in us or it takes a lot amount of reading to bring out that witty-talking spontaneously. And if you think it’s not in you just follow this straight advice from Mr. Twain – “it is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open one’s mouth and remove all doubts.” I seriously look up to Dorothy Parker when I want something brilliantly funny, I would be totally in love with myself when I’ll start formulating original quotes like “This is not a novel to be tossed aside lightly. It should be thrown with great force.” or “The first thing I do in the morning is brush my teeth and sharpen my tongue.”
I don’t deny the fact that sometimes I do inspire myself with such quotes and try to incorporate the same edginess, like the one from Oscar Wilde “Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months” but it’s such a disappointment when people say “what do you mean?” I am just left with a straight face. Kill Me. And then there are quotes that let you ponder and act “Hope is such a bait, it covers any hook” by Oliver Goldsmith or “There are a thousand thoughts lying within a man that he does not know till he takes up a pen to write” by William Makepeace Thackeray. I would not mind going back to that era by a time machine and acquire this “art” under the tutelage of great writers of all time.
OK, so this day has come again..not so exciting for the ones who are eternally single. Like me!. Not that I can’t find anyone but I am just too busy to entertain someone. At least for now. So before anybody with a valentine starts making me miserable, I thought of coming up with an exciting plan to uplift me on this day. I’m going to turn a narcissist for a day. Well, who said you can’t be your own valentine. I am going to do and treat myself in the same way I would want a man to make me feel special. 14 steps on 14th Feb to be your own valentine.
- Wake up with a song that makes you feel special like ‘A Woman Like You’ by Lee Brice. Stay away with the ones that can make you cry.
- Wear bright colors like red, yellow or orange may be. Something that reflects on your face. A very important step as it keeps you vibrant whole day.
- Bring the peppy side of yours out, wish everyone around you regardless of age. Don’t forget to smile it’s a good cover-up. You never know who’s falling in love with your smile.
- Buy flowers for yourself. At least I wouldn’t crib about its color.
- Buy your favorite chocolates. Don’t eat alone. Share it with others around you. Eating alone is again a sign of miser ability.
- If you are a compulsive shopper then get yourself something nice, not expensive but something that pleases you.
- I don’t recommend a day off from work, because it gives you ample time to ponder upon it which is difficult to fill in so u got to go to work as usual and may be you can take something for you colleagues like tarts, macaroons or marzipan. The idea is to keep people happy around you so that they keep you happy in return.
- Eat good breakfast. Something different from everyday. You can even go out for it, if that is not what you usually do.
- Stay away from people who bring evil side of yours. You don’t want to act like a bitch on this day.
- People like me would go seek shelter in the poems of Rumi or Shakespeare sonnets as they will levitate you against the convenient love of these days.
- In Evening, go out with other singles for drinks or some art activity like a play or an exhibition. Socializing is a brilliant therapy.
- If have time watch a movie like Casablanca, watch it not to dream about a partner like Humphrey Bogart or Ingrid Bergman but to admire the artwork by Michael Curtiz.. Nah… Watch a slapstick like the Dictator or Horrible Bosses. At least I would do that.
- Do something to relax yourself like spa, yoga, meditation or dancing.
- Finally. Feel Good. Keep Smiling. Thank God that the day is over !!!
Human Brain is the most complex yet simple (if understood) thing, the Almighty has created. Neither am I a psychology student nor holds any inquisitiveness to study human brain. However, it is interesting to see the variations in human behavior on good and bad days. And very bad days.
I can be categorized as someone who shows extreme moods. Nothing I boast of. On any good day, I am seen laughing and making others laugh with my one-liners. While on a bad day, the same me can’t resist snapping at people on trivial things, even at my best people. That’s me.
This post is not about self-correction or to list down measures for mood-balancing. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong in showing extreme moods (in civil limits). I am just doing what I am programmed to do, being human. Even animals have moods, I am no different. What we need is not shunning the expression of our moods but acceptance of it by others. Sincerely, I respect moods. I believe every being has a right to be themselves. Why to wary of people judging us. But, for people to respect your mood, it is first important to be true to yourself. A honest mood swing is not only acceptable but understandable. Bad mood mixed with the traces of ego or personal malice is straight away ousted. The latter can not cover up for a rough mood. Somehow, egoism demeans the whole concept of mood swings.
Not that I am justifying my extremity of moods. I do sometimes rue about my frostiness and try to undone the done. But, people who know me, would agree with me. Anything that is not manipulative is forgettable and neglect able. It is human ritual. On-set of genuine expression and humble acceptance of checkered moods, I believe would simplify or define the intricacies of the human brain.