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A brief tryst

It started as a very ordinary day for me. Same running to catch a metro to work, carving my way in the crowd of zillions and at the same time strutting on those imbalanced heels. I usually walk fast during the rush hour in mornings, without looking left and right like a horse with blinkers. So, I was already running late and in those late mornings I can even ignore a Hurricane. While I was proceeding towards my next interchange of trains, my feet struck a baby shoe. A small kid of less than an year was being carried by his mother, the shoe must have got dropped in that hustle-bustle.  While he was looking at his shoe wanting to tell his mum about his lost treasure, his mother was completely oblivious of the situation. Suddenly, he saw me coming close towards him. He made a desperate glance at me and the next towards his shoe. That innocent face immediately softened the robotic me. I picked up the shoe and extended my hand to give to him, he did the same with an appreciating smile but co-incidentally his mother made a swift move inadvertent of this secret meeting. I walked further to give the boy his shoe but his mother was making equal steps as me. In this long chaotic walk, the kid was the most desperate soul. Seeing this misery, a third person stopped the mother and pointed towards me. With a satisfactory expression the mother left with the shoe while the kid still facing towards me, had an overwhelming smile.

A brief love affair can happen anywhere and anytime.!

 

 

 

 

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Life is not easy

It is so weird that people never let you live the way you want to.  There’ll always be some fault in your lifestyle that may suit you and makes you happy but not them. Sometimes these people are your own parents, siblings and even friends. If you are somebody who keeps the failures on side and knows how to gather back the spirit and live the way which is different from others,  it’s not always welcomed by people. One reason is because they are not used to of this different lifestyle and the other is nobody wants you to forget your failures, how can you live to the fullest when these people are still living in their miseries. And if you don’t pay heed to anybody’s concerns, you are termed as a Rebel.

When I was a kid, I remember, it was always a protective cocoon around me. Hard to break no matter how hard I tried. I waited. As I reached my teens, it was still a cocoon but with slight passage. Still was not enough but couldn’t do much because there was no way to buy an axe to break that cocoon. And when you reach that stage when you can buy an axe, that’s it your time’s over..you gotta marry now.

I don’t know when will I reach the stage when I wouldn’t have to wonder about what people will think of me,  when I wouldn’t have to ask or contemplate on all the things that people think are important but for me are rudimentary. And for God Sake when will the time come when people will understand  Life and that for everybody it has different meaning and dreams.

Judging and being Judged

“If you spend your energy condemning and judging the people who mistreat you it puts you in a condemning and judging mindset, which subconsciously makes you feel condemned and judged too. The more judgmental you are, the worse your self-esteem will be.”
Kimberly Giles, Choosing Clarity: The Path to Fearlessness

A new way of PDA

If you are single have you ever envied any married couple? I have always wondered how newly married couple publicize their whole love affair on social networking websites. This can be counted as a new way of Public Display of Affection (PDA).  I am not a fan of the mushy long write-ups by newly weds about their ongoing marital life. Their periodic gushing and regular updates on how amazing their last night date was, is repelling.  I mean I am sure they are in love which is why they married in the first place but telling it aloud to public again and again puts a doubt on that very love. Is it not juvenile to thank your partners on completion of a week,  month or an year; I thought it’s a duty of a spouse to keep the other one happy, thanking them just demeans the whole idea of marriage. I would be more interested if somebody displayed their marriage as not an amazing one as they thought it would be.

There could be a lot of hypothesis that explain this unwanted social networking displays.

One is that such couples are so much in love that they can’t contain it and it becomes necessary to involve others as happy comments by latter such as “Lucky You”, “Happy for You” make the couples feel that they have done something extraordinary.

Second is for publicity I think, before marriage they were used to of a lot of attention which of course starts reducing after they are hitched, so fear of that losing territory encourages them to post just “anything”.

Third could be they want all the people to know that Marriage is not such a bad thing as it is deemed as and they prove it by professing the endless love between them. This is also one way to make all those singles feel bad who think they are cool.

Fourth is my favorite and probably the most common reason and it is that they are just jobless. They have been exchanging deep feelings about each other in private but when they get bored they want to involve more people in this game.

More annoying part is when other who are ok to such immature confessions throw stupid comments. But they are fun to read.  I know it’s a free country and love is something which needs to be shared and all stuff..blah blah but I would still tell such people to Get-a-Room please.

And the dilemma persists…

Why can’t life be simple. Why do we have to take decisions. Why do we fall into a charade of to-do or not-to-do.

These are some questions I am looking the answers for. More than the inability to take decisions this post is more on the never ending dilemmas in life. Of late I have been experiencing perplexities in certain areas of my life, the decision of which can not be taken in one yes or no. Today with much thought on my current situation I tried to identify the factors that leads to confused state of mind:

1. Options/Choices: More options leads to more confusion. You keep hopping from one option to another without leading to any final destination. If you have only one way to follow you would not be bothered about anything better.

2. Desires: More is better. And more is never enough. Somewhere the want of more makes you indecisive as you never would be able to gauge how much more is enough for you.

3. Want of best: A part of desires that always persuade you to close your eyes on a good opportunity only in a want of the best thing. Hence you are always dwindling between the better and best.

4. Too much thinking: We were taught to think and act. I think I took it a bit too seriously. Over thinking crowds your mind, thus the inability to take a call leads to perpetual confusion.

While I am trying to overcome the obstacles that makes me dilemmatic but this is how it is. May be some of you could tell how to rule out the dilemma part.

Live for a better world

Arazu, a single Afghan mother of four smuggled herself with 2 sons from Afghanistan to Germany after bribing exorbitantly at the borders.  This was in 2011.  She still awaits the reunion with her daughters.

Hyeonseo Lee, a North Korean national escaped the country for the better world only to reunite with her family after 14 years.

Kunsang, a Tibetan woman who left her home country with her daughter in order to survive from ruthless invading Chinese army.  Though she is over 90 she has never been able to return to her country. Living an exiled life.

And it’s just not them. There are thousands of people every day who put their lives at risk to find out ways to escape from extremist countries. I am left flabbergasted with the immense courage and determination (of course loads of money!!) displayed by these people to leave that toxic political and social environment in desperation.

Living in a democratic country I still crib about the corruption and bureaucracy prevails in India however when I read such stories I feel so fortunate to be a part of it.  It is sad that some of us are very unfortunate not because we are born in poor families or with some disorders but to take birth in a country like Afghanistan or North Korea!!  There, the life of an individual is not his or her but it is heavily dependent on the political scenario of the country.  In North Korea not even that option as there is only one man rule. I have been wanting to write on Kim Jong-un since long but have never been able to understand how one family has been able to hold its control on its people for that long even after incidents of insurgencies all around the world. Pick up a history of any subdued nation there is always one section of society raising its voice against autocratic rule and starting some sort of Guerrilla Warfare against the ruler but it is disappointing how we haven’t read any such revolt in North Korea.

It is quite despairing, you take birth in this world only to find yourself on the behest of country leaders.  Suddenly your life is not yours. You are scrutinized, monitored and live in constant surveillance. And making matter worse if you are born with shit luck you would either end up losing your life in a suicide bomb attack or a vegetable life in a concentration camp.!!!

Embrace the self-knowledge

We spend our lives discovering the worldly knowledge unaware of the fact that the knowledge within us is phenomenal. There are so many people I meet every day who can speak for hours on world affairs and their superfluous knowledge acquired from the books but when it comes to define themselves or about their purpose of living, all the knowledge goes flat. Certainly I am also a victim of this human ignorance. I sometimes go astray from my real objective of life and instead gets too involved in obliging to my materialistic engagements so much so that it becomes difficult for me to take simple decisions of life. Well I do blame my indecisiveness at some points but more than that it is very unfortunate of us who are surrounded with gadgets all the time and I have been noticing that even for a small trivial life queries, I look up on Google which I acknowledge is absolutely preposterous because I don’t want to categorize myself into people who can’t find solutions on their own. I am quite certain that there must be many more people like me who have the ability to take decisions but has somewhere lost their paths for some or the other reasons. So here it is, stop for a while, take some time out, gather your thoughts and listen to your heart and soul. They want to speak with you, give them time or you’ll lose them forever.  May be Khalil Gibran could help us.

Self-Knowledge by Khalil Gibran

Your hearts know in silence the secrets of the days and the nights.
But your ears thirst for the sound of your heart’s knowledge.
You would know in words that which you have always known in thought.
You would touch with your fingers the naked body of your dreams.

And it is well you should.
The hidden well-spring of your soul must needs rise and run murmuring to the sea;
And the treasure of your infinite depths would be revealed to your eyes.
But let there be no scales to weigh your unknown treasure;
And seek not the depths of your knowledge with staff or sounding line.
For self is a sea boundless and measureless.

Say not, “I have found the truth,” but rather, “I have found a truth.”
Say not, “I have found the path of the soul.” Say rather, “I have met the soul walking upon my path.”
For the soul walks upon all paths.
The soul walks not upon a line, neither does it grow like a reed.
The soul unfolds itself like a lotus of countless petals.

A conversation

After watching the horrendous natural mishap happened in the Uttarakhand state of India, I am devastated and shocked with the intensity of nature’s fury.

Uttarakhand lies in the northern region of India beautifully adorning mountain ranges. This state is popular for its hill stations and pilgrimage destinations. Like all years, this year also, thousands of people visited to the holy shrines at Kedarnath, Badrinath, Yamnotri and Gangotri only to witness death due to the floodings caused by the heavy rains and cloudburst.  The whole state as lies in the hilly region is prone to landslides. I watched the clips of the destroyed region on the news and they are very disturbing. People are still stranded in different parts of the state without food and any contacts as the road network got damaged and any sort of connection is not reachable to them. The rescue teams are in action to save as many people as they can however nobody can estimate the exact number of people who may have lost their lives in this accident. It is probably in thousands.

This video is just a fraction of the damage that has happened.

It is an intrinsic nature of us – to complain even without even realizing our faults. In this post I am trying to make a conversation between an affected pilgrim and the God.

What a pilgrim says to his God after witnessing this whole nature’s devastation.

“It was an epiphanic day,

I thought,

My materialistic pains will be alleviated,

If I see you,

I took a plunge,

Crossing rivers and mountains,

I arrived,

With folded hands, pure heart and teary eyes,

I prayed,

Not for me but for my family,

As I opened my eyes I was swept away,

I was drowning,

 Amidst the yelling people I was lost,

    Soon everything was in rubble

    I lost everything for which I prayed for

  And with that the faith in you

Are you really God – the most divine or a monster?”

How the God replied to this harsh accusation on Him:

“It is you who made me God,

And now you are making me a monster

I never asked you to come to me,

I never asked you to pray me

All I have asked you is to help each other,

There are others dying every day of hunger,

While you were feeding your family

There are atrocities happening everywhere,

And you watched them

It perturbs me more when I see,

What you did with the nature I gifted you,

You did not value it too

And you are asking me if I’m a monster

Don’t go find me at far off places,

You will not seek happiness

I am there where you don’t want to see

 Within you

I have given you the power to find solutions for all your pains

Once you’ll start valuing things I have bestowed on you,

And help people around you,

You will not need any GOD to help you.”