If you are single have you ever envied any married couple? I have always wondered how newly married couple publicize their whole love affair on social networking websites. This can be counted as a new way of Public Display of Affection (PDA). I am not a fan of the mushy long write-ups by newly weds about their ongoing marital life. Their periodic gushing and regular updates on how amazing their last night date was, is repelling. I mean I am sure they are in love which is why they married in the first place but telling it aloud to public again and again puts a doubt on that very love. Is it not juvenile to thank your partners on completion of a week, month or an year; I thought it’s a duty of a spouse to keep the other one happy, thanking them just demeans the whole idea of marriage. I would be more interested if somebody displayed their marriage as not an amazing one as they thought it would be.
There could be a lot of hypothesis that explain this unwanted social networking displays.
One is that such couples are so much in love that they can’t contain it and it becomes necessary to involve others as happy comments by latter such as “Lucky You”, “Happy for You” make the couples feel that they have done something extraordinary.
Second is for publicity I think, before marriage they were used to of a lot of attention which of course starts reducing after they are hitched, so fear of that losing territory encourages them to post just “anything”.
Third could be they want all the people to know that Marriage is not such a bad thing as it is deemed as and they prove it by professing the endless love between them. This is also one way to make all those singles feel bad who think they are cool.
Fourth is my favorite and probably the most common reason and it is that they are just jobless. They have been exchanging deep feelings about each other in private but when they get bored they want to involve more people in this game.
More annoying part is when other who are ok to such immature confessions throw stupid comments. But they are fun to read. I know it’s a free country and love is something which needs to be shared and all stuff..blah blah but I would still tell such people to Get-a-Room please.
Phew almost after two weeks. It has been a crazy month for me work wise and is gonna continue like this. Something made me to check my blog today and honestly it’s not a good feeling to see this , it looks like a beat of a dying heart. I reckon it becomes like that as your heart gets so stuffed for not writing it out. Anyway.
Have you been stalked ever?
No, I am not being stalked, but I was wondering due to technology available at a tap of finger, it has become so easy to trace anybody, to message anybody if not on Facebook then Watsapp or email. It is ironic in a way that initially you would want to connect with the world but slowly you pull yourself from it as you feel intruded like exactly what I am feeling right now. You can’t really hide totally, can you? Either you have to get rid of that phone which is a mini computer in itself or just preach social self boycott which is not advisable. I am aware that all these social platforms do offer you self hideout which is okay but what about the mental stigma you go through, you can’t even sue these sites. I so want to get away from these so called social circles at least till the time I require the need for it once again in my life. But right now I am just too loaded and want to leave the spotlight for someone else.
Arazu, a single Afghan mother of four smuggled herself with 2 sons from Afghanistan to Germany after bribing exorbitantly at the borders. This was in 2011. She still awaits the reunion with her daughters.
Hyeonseo Lee, a North Korean national escaped the country for the better world only to reunite with her family after 14 years.
Kunsang, a Tibetan woman who left her home country with her daughter in order to survive from ruthless invading Chinese army. Though she is over 90 she has never been able to return to her country. Living an exiled life.
And it’s just not them. There are thousands of people every day who put their lives at risk to find out ways to escape from extremist countries. I am left flabbergasted with the immense courage and determination (of course loads of money!!) displayed by these people to leave that toxic political and social environment in desperation.
Living in a democratic country I still crib about the corruption and bureaucracy prevails in India however when I read such stories I feel so fortunate to be a part of it. It is sad that some of us are very unfortunate not because we are born in poor families or with some disorders but to take birth in a country like Afghanistan or North Korea!! There, the life of an individual is not his or her but it is heavily dependent on the political scenario of the country. In North Korea not even that option as there is only one man rule. I have been wanting to write on Kim Jong-un since long but have never been able to understand how one family has been able to hold its control on its people for that long even after incidents of insurgencies all around the world. Pick up a history of any subdued nation there is always one section of society raising its voice against autocratic rule and starting some sort of Guerrilla Warfare against the ruler but it is disappointing how we haven’t read any such revolt in North Korea.
It is quite despairing, you take birth in this world only to find yourself on the behest of country leaders. Suddenly your life is not yours. You are scrutinized, monitored and live in constant surveillance. And making matter worse if you are born with shit luck you would either end up losing your life in a suicide bomb attack or a vegetable life in a concentration camp.!!!
Have you ever been a victim of people’s lack of knowledge of etiquettes in a cinema hall while you are watching an entertaining flick (which is quite rare these days!!). I went for a movie today and hell, the presence of certain disturbing elements there was absolutely intolerable and since we belong to civilized society we can’t do anything much about it. Some common faux pas committed by people that should be looked upon to avoid glaring eyes and unwanted attention.
Crying or shouting kids: Call me sadist but kids below 10 should be banned from the movie theaters. Nothing is more irritating than a wailing child, I once shouted really bad at a child (only he was too far to hear it).
Ringing of or Speaking on phone: I understand that some people watching the movie could be some busy hotshots but least they can do is to put their phone on SILENT mode. Ringing of cellular phones with cacophonous ringtones is very disturbing. And more annoying is the part when the person who owns it actually picks the call and talks loud !!
Taking advantage of darkness: Thinking that it is dark and nobody can see you is a big misconception, We can definitely hear your oohs and ahas. I am sure you are totally in love but I haven’t paid to witness your public display of affection, get yourself a room !!!
Throwing the dialogues: Yes I have seen that. And it is so cheap when some people actually shout the dialogue before the actor even starts. Just because you have seen the movie twice or thrice doesn’t make you Leonardo Di Caprio. So shut up and let me hear him.
Arriving late: Just because it’s an entertainment activity doesn’t mean you don’t have to be on time. Imagine you totally engrossed in the movie and suddenly somebody disturbs you in between asking you to give them the way to take their seat. But it doesn’t end there they’ll come back again saying excuse me because they came to the wrong row. And worse is when they step on your toe.!! Once a lady with heels stepped on my foot and I was left cursing her for rest of the movie.
Throwing Popcorns: It was fun when I was 8 year old but now if I get popcorns from back while I’m holding up my emotions is very very pesky. Eat your corns, do not waste them as you have paid for it. And I for the movie.
Stretching your legs: I once went for a horror flick and I was very much into it like shit scary and suddenly I saw a disfigured hairy foot on the arm of my seat. I screamed. Plus it was stinky. I hit the foot twice to make the person realize of contempt. There is nothing bad in stretching your limbs but atleast don’t do it on somebody.
There are other trivial elements which people either deliberately or unknowingly do which cause disruptions in cinema hall. But I think people should learn about etiquettes in different social settings to avoid any discomfort for others.
I totally gave up on writing a post today due to the lack of any inspiration around me but fortunately or unfortunately may be, I did find something. I was doing my usual writing and reading stuff in my room when I heard my mom talking to her close friend over a call about domestic violence which of course alerted my ears. So, I eavesdropped (hate to say that), but I couldn’t contain my curiosity so I asked my mother for the details and I got to know that my mother’s friend has been a victim of domestic violence and is now on anti-depressants. Last night, her husband had hit her again but this time it surpassed her tolerance level so she called the police. (But like any other respectable family the matter subdued without much tumult). Imagine a upper middle class family which seems quite ordinary to any pair of eyes in social gatherings has a deep secret like this, what should I say they are good at camouflaging secrets?.
Domestic Violence is not a country specific issue, it is encountered everyday by number of females living in different corners of the world. I was keen on writing on this topic all the more because I am currently reading a book called My Feudal Lord which is a real account of Tehmina Durrani who was battered and tortured for many years by her husband Ghulam Mustafa Khar who happened to be the former Chief Minister and Governor of Punjab in Pakistan. Like many women she also kept mum to such atrocities for various reasons. She eventually got divorced though.
In my belief, there is no reason (small or big) under the sun that permits you to let anybody hit you constantly, that too somebody who is supposed to provide you security. At times women may be wrong and may not oblige with the code of conduct laid by the husband, but, raising a hand on a woman or any living being for that matter in any circumstance is an act of cowardice. And I feel more angry not on the one who starts the violence but who accepts it without any attempt of refusal. For those who suffers silently are the greatest sinners than the ones who cause the sufferings, as quoted in the Holy Book of Bhagwad Gita.
What are these women afraid of anyway? Nowadays even society is open to help them. I asked my mother to help her out, and she replied “Well I can’t until she herself is ready to rise against it. I will be seen as somebody poking nose in somebody’s family matter.”
I certainly believe gone are the days when women were totally dependable on their husbands and crap. If you aren’t earning there is a word called ‘Alimony’ and ‘Maintenance money’ after divorce which is enough to give chills to any married men. Plus all that social stigma they go through as the battered female will receive all the sympathy of the world. Any female who has come out of this hell and made a living on her own earns my respect but not the ones who are being silent sufferers as you will always be blamed for being one. And if you really want to be a sufferer at least be a smart one, keep a pepper spray! Remember men’s private part hurts them the most. I would surely wouldn’t prefer living in such tragedy and keep an account of my beatings so that I can write a biography later on.
Break the shell and see how wonderful it is to live like a human being.